I think Justin Beiber is a on a roller-coaster to no place great at the moment. I hope for his own sake he decides it’s time to get off soon. I was catching up on my Celeb Goss (where else? doctor’s surgery) and noted with some interest that Justin had been spotted at some pool-side location in recent months chatting to a young woman who was sun-bathing. Apparently (and you have to take some of the tittle-tattle with a grain of salt, I guess) the conversation wasn’t terribly sophisticated on his side… it was like, all yeah – like, you know, what up? You look like a beached whale or something… and apparently onlookers were uncomfortable and horrified at his… (fill in the blank here) ________________ (GUBC – Grossly Untapped Brain Cellage would be my pick). The underlying idea (and I use that word pretty loosely) in JB’s present thinking is “I can do what I like…” He hasn’t even connected the part that includes “as long as I’m not hurting anyone else.” The whole sentiment is a pretty disturbing way to run your life, but running life with just the first half? Like – huh?
The thing is, later in the article, Justin defended his slide into self-indulgent Obnoxicity (think the point betweenToxicity and Obnoxious) by saying something like, it’s my life, and I’m on a journey and I make mistakes and grow from them. Interesting. The thing is he’s partly right, but at the same time all wrong. Yes, it’s his life, yes, we all make mistakes and sommetimes go through the horros of being Toxic/Obnoxious, but you only grow positively from these times when you own up to the impact they have on the people you connect with. Ideas that are critical here are things like: reflection, restoration, saying sorry, being sorry, being forgiven. Otherwise you are just a like a derailed train, sloughing into everyone and everything around you and ultimately sliding to a screaming and destructive halt, some place off the line where you didn’t plan to be. That’s not life. It’s a train wreck. That’s not any model of masculinity I want to see my boys emulate as they grow up, or see my daughter dating one day in the (far distant) future.
So, look at your own life. Don’t kid yourself that unkind words, posts, tweets or selfish actions don’t really hurt the people around you. Don’t look to Celebs to shape your life – you will never get the whole picture about them anyway, just the manufactured image that handlers and the PR Machines behind them want you to see, to sell their product, to make them wealthy. And does wealth make them happy? Well, JB’s spent time in the Slammer recently and (apparently) wasn’t desparately happy about it. All I can see with that tatts and the shirt-free swagger is a lost little boy who doesn’t quite know how to grow and is grabbing on to all kinds of frail surface stuff.
In as far as it depends on you, live in harmony with all people. That’s the fundamental message of Christianity: embrace restoration, forgiveness and with the grace of God, get out of the wreckage, and do it now.